Interesting online dating stats
Today more and more single people are using internet dating sites. Research carried out by the Pew Research Center in 2013 found that 59% of Americans agree that online dating is a good way to meet people. This is up from about 44% eight years ago. The same research found that about 1 in 5 adults between the ages of 25 and 34 use online dating in America and 5% of Americans in a marriage or committed relationship met online. If you are one of the many South Africans who is already on a dating site or are thinking of joining one then these 5 tips from yourtango.com will be of interest to you!
1. Choose good pictures
Remember that you are competing with thousands of other users on the site and it’s usually the picture that leads an online dating subscriber to click on your profile in order to learn more. While we may not all be models or athletes it is important that you choose photos that show you at your best. Make sure that the picture is clear and recent, preferably not older than 6 months. If you use an old picture you may well get more interest but your date will be disappointed when you finally meet – and you will have shown that you are not incapable of dishonesty in the game of romance. Make sure that you don’t wear dark shades or a hat – your potential date will probably guess that you are hiding the dark rings under your eyes from working or partying too hard and are probably balding as well. Avoid taking selfies or pictures of yourself in the bathroom mirror – they rarely come out well and you are telling your potential mate that you don’t have any friends or family that are willing to photograph you. Also make sure that you are smiling naturally – baring your teeth is not the same as smiling. A true smile can be seen in the eyes and not just the teeth.
2. Contact people who are looking for someone like you
Online dating, although it seems similar, is not the same as online shopping. While it might seem that you have an endless supply of potential dates to choose from, you must remember that your potential date has the same choice! So before you compose an initial message ask yourself the following questions:
- Would the person you are interested in, on the basis of what he or she says in there profile, be likely to choose you?
- You may be great, but are you a great match?
- Do you fit all or most of her requirements and preferences?
- Do you fit within the required age range? Although you may believe that you can win her over with your charm remember that she has as much choice, if not more, as you and probably won’t even look at a 50 year old if she is looking for someone in their 30’s.
- Make use of the sites matching feature to take the guess work out of looking for someone who will be looking for someone like you.
3. Don’t tease or be sarcastic
Although your mates might think that you’re a real hoot after you’ve all had a few drinks at the local, don’t presume that a total stranger will be equally impressed. I once asked what the “B” stood for in “Anna B” and was told it stood for bitch. I should have taken her seriously – we met and she was one. Humour is incredibly sexy but make sure you are being humorous in a kind way that will leave her feeling happy and good about herself! And bear in mind what Oscar Wilde said, “Sarcasm is the lowest form of wit”!
4. Ask the right questions
Make sure you read her profile first and then ask her specific questions based on the information in the profile. People love it when someone pays attention to them and usually love answering questions about things that are meaningful to them. This is a great way to break the ice and to begin building trust. Never ask “What do you like to do for fun” as in most cases the answer to this question will be, either directly or indirectly, in her profile. Be sure to steer well clear of questions that may be embarrassing – these include asking about previous relationships or marriages, asking about politics and religion or asking why she has never had kids. Please note though this caution is just recommended in the initial stages of getting to know someone while internet dating. Once you have met and trust has been built you may of course feel easier about asking difficult questions. But even then, be sure to take the lead from your date and potential mate.
5. Don’t be a stalker
Once you have sent a message then relax and go about your business. Don’t look at her profile a hundred times a day. And, seeing she’s online but hasn’t answered you yet, worry about what other more desirable guys she may be chatting to. Remember you are dealing with a stranger who owes you nothing and is within their rights to not answer your lovingly crafted and sexily brilliant message. Be careful when texting from a mobile app as each time you send she will receive a new email – and to see 10 emails from you when she hasn’t even read one could quite easily give the wrong message. And also please avoid becoming a stalker after a first date. No matter how well the first date went, there are still no guarantees. If you get the feeling that she may have lost interest just move on. Becoming a pathetic nag you are sure to chase her away even if she was in fact still interested but was busy with other things in her life.
I hope that the above tips help and wish you all the best in your cyber quest for love and romance. Once you have found that special someone be sure to see our fantastic range of 100% natural herbal libido and mood enhancers for both him and her.